From Master Judith’s original journal. First published June 4, 2022. Lightly edited for clarity.
One thing I have noticed that hinders one from growing is the inability to admit one has done wrong. It is said that realizing one has done wrong is where change and growth can begin in a person, and that is true.
However, what is neglected is realizing the impact our mistakes have on the people around us. Recognizing how one has faulted oneself and others due to the situation is not only the start of our growth, but could be the start for others, too.
I have been honing my craft for more than 10 years now, and I can’t say that my learning is complete or that it has been easy. Mistakes and failures have marked my experience and I can’t say for certain I was the only one affected by my shortcomings. I may not be able to change the past, but I can make do with what I know and have right now to improve myself and all around me.
This calls to my mind the importance of The Three Factors of Human Success. As much as they benefit one person, they can assist those around them as well. Heaven Luck can help one reflect on the support one can offer others while Earth luck and Man Luck makes sure one taps the right energy and does the right action to help people, respectively. While one should focus on one’s growth, assisting those we love and helping them grow should be focused, too.
When it comes to being there for the ones we love, Man Luck is the most important factor to consider. Oftentimes, taking action and asking and listening to the struggles of those we love is enough. Hurting people sometimes can’t be avoided and it may often affect them more than what they like to admit, but remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and growth takes a slow process.
However, taking action can backfire sometimes and would only cause wounds and damages to be increased. Finding the right time and support when taking action is important as Heaven and Earth Luck can guide what time would have the most impact. Finding a calmer time to talk and considering the surroundings can help us think through an engagement.
A constant and sustainable balance is always the goal when I consult someone. Balancing out the wrong committed with good is the ideal scenario I aim to give to my clients. As it is true that one can’t please everyone, one can at least do right to those we have wronged. Recognizing, apologizing, and being better to avoid causing harm again may be the change those one has wrong need to see to start growing as well.
Master JudithBaZi and classical Feng Shui consultant, author, and speaker. In professional practice since 2010. About the practice