Early in my Feng Shui career, I kept a low profile. I was still juggling work as an events manager and my duties as a parent. When I wrote about that period, I admitted another reason: I was afraid of the effect my advice could have on people.
A person may carry something said in a consultation into a decision about a home, work, or a relationship. The words can stay with them long after the conversation ends.
That thought made care and tone part of what I needed to learn. I had to consider how an explanation could leave someone feeling supported or feeling worse about themselves.
An interpretation needs an explanation that the person can understand and question. A broad description such as being forceful, cautious, or sensitive can mean very different things in different situations.
If a description comes up in your reading, ask where it applies. What part of your current question does it help you think through? What would you need to observe in your own behavior before deciding it fits?
Keep the decision visible
For example, if you are considering a leadership role, bring the actual duties into the discussion. You may need to give feedback, make a budget, or manage a schedule. Ask how the interpretation relates to one of those tasks and what practical step you could try.
You can ask for a plain explanation whenever the language feels unclear. You can also say when a description fails to match your experience. That gives the conversation information it needs.
Before acting on advice, repeat back what you understood. Name the recommendation, the reason given, and anything that remains uncertain. A question about a consequential decision deserves that time.
My early hesitation made me think about the trust people placed in me. A person receiving advice needs to understand the recommendation, its reason, and the choice that remains theirs.
Master JudithBaZi and classical Feng Shui consultant, author, and speaker. Read my story