Suppose you and your partner are planning a wedding. The venue offers two Saturdays. Your sister can attend only one. A relative sends a list of auspicious dates, and neither Saturday appears on it.
This imagined example shows the problem clearly. You need a date that the people taking part can actually use. Sending the consultant a calendar with no explanation leaves out the facts that govern your decision.
Write down the two available Saturdays, the venue's location, the ceremony times it allows, and the date your sister can attend. Tell the consultant which commitments you can change. If the venue deposit is already paid, say that too.
In my earlier writing, I described selecting a day and time for weddings, business signings, and construction through BaZi, considering the birth details of the people involved. Explain your plan before asking the practitioner to assess the available dates. A selected date cannot promise a successful marriage or event.
Name the action you want timed
For a wedding, the ceremony and reception may begin hours apart. Ask which action the selected time covers. Write that action beside the recommendation so the host, venue coordinator, and couple receive the same instruction.
Other events need the same care. Signing a business agreement, negotiating its terms, and announcing it are separate actions. A house move may involve a furniture delivery, the family's arrival, and the first overnight stay. Tell the practitioner which one you want to discuss.
If only one date is possible, give that date and the available hours. Ask what the practitioner can assess within that limit. Get a clear answer before paying for work that assumes a choice of dates you do not have.
Write the city, date, and time together
For an event in Los Angeles, confirm the Los Angeles date and time. Anyone joining from the Philippines should receive the converted time as well.
For example, 10 AM in Los Angeles on October 16, 2026 is 1 AM in Manila on October 17. In January, the time difference changes because Los Angeles uses a different seasonal clock setting. The date is part of the calculation.
That October time is an example of a clock conversion. It is not an auspicious-date recommendation.
A useful confirmation would read: "Wedding ceremony: October 16, 2026, 10 AM, Los Angeles. Manila viewing time: October 17, 2026, 1 AM." Add the venue and the action the practitioner has assessed. Avoid a message that says only "Friday at ten."
If the plan changes
Return to the imagined wedding. The venue cancels the booking. The new venue is available the following week, with an afternoon ceremony.
Send the practitioner the new location, date options, and hours. Ask which parts of the original assessment need review and what that review would cost. A new location or activity can change the question being assessed.
Once you have agreed on the revised plan, replace the old time in the invitations, shared calendar, and supplier instructions. Ask the venue coordinator to confirm receipt. Keeping two versions in circulation is an avoidable source of mistakes.
The same rule applies to a house that is unfinished or a business awaiting required approvals. The people responsible for the building or operation must confirm it is ready. For a medical procedure, the medical team determines the clinically appropriate timing.
Before announcing any selected date, you should be able to give one complete answer: what will happen, where it will happen, which local date and time apply, and who has confirmed that the plan can go ahead.
Master JudithBaZi and classical Feng Shui consultant, author, and speaker. Read my story